Tag: fostercare

Home Studies

A Tool for Self-Discovery and Success
by
Bekah Alexander, FCNI Social Worker
May, 16, 2017 -

Many of us have a desire to open our lives to children in need of love and safety. It’s fun to dream of throwing open your front door to welcome an adorable foster child into the home. But becoming a Resource Parent is actually an intensive process that requires background checks, training, references, a home inspection, and what seems like an endless stack of paperwork. There are a lot of hoops to jump through before a child ends up on your doorstep. For many applicants, the most intimidating aspect of becoming a Resource Parent is the dreaded home study-- a comprehensive, written evaluation of the applicant’s strengths and issues. I know firsthand the scrutiny of inviting a stranger into my home to write about my life. Before I started writing home studies as a Social Worker, I was a foster parent! I’ve undergone five (FIVE!) home studies as a foster and adoptive parent in Indiana and California.

Being the “Source” in Resource Parenting

A Parent’s Perspective
by
Susan Jones, FCNI Resource Parent
May, 9, 2017 -

May is National Foster Care month, When I first became certified as a foster parent, I felt there was a negative stigma associated with foster parents and foster kids. There was regular press coverage about foster kids living in horrific situations with foster parents who loaded their houses up with kids so they could get more money. In some states, Social Workers didn’t visit homes for years because they could only respond to emergencies they knew about. I remember feeling so discouraged when another negative article would come out, because I felt that no one was telling the stories about the thousands of good, loving foster parents.

Redefining Foster Parenting

A Look Back and a Look Forward
by
Jim Roberts, CEO
May, 2, 2017 -

“Foster Care” has come a long way over the past couple of centuries and is yet experiencing another significant transformation. Foster care in the USA has its origins in English Poor Law, which basically allowed an abandoned or orphaned child to be forced into indentured servitude until they became of age. Kids basically became slaves for the individuals housing them. The argument in favor of this practice was that this arrangement provided children with the “basic skills they needed to survive in life.” America’s first foster child was Benjamin Eaton, age 7, in the Jamestown Colony.

The Squish Story: A Journey from Foster Care to Adoption

Part 2
by
Tara Brown and Jessica Mock
November, 10, 2016 -

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” -Helen Keller

Community support can make anything possible. And Tara Brown can attest to the fact that community and family can provide one the strength and collective power to make anything possible, including adopting a child from foster care as a single mother.

When you’re involved in something as impactful as foster care and adoption, Tara has learned that people want to be a part of the process of something meaningful, inspiring and beautiful. “Some people are meant to foster or adopt, and those who can’t, can still be a support system for those who do,” Tara says. Throughout her journey, Tara discovered the beauty and strength of true community and interdependence. She found that the hardest part about entering into the world of foster care and adoption was her own resistance to asking for help. Tara quickly learned that it is okay to not be okay, to have needs, and to have moments of weakness and doubt, as these moments have taught her how to ask and receive critical help.

I'm More 'Normal' Than You Think

Giving Voice to our Foster Kids
by
Erin Voss, FCNI Social Worker and Program Supervisor
May, 17, 2016 -

We work and serve in a very challenging field, and we can’t avoid acknowledging and responding to the vast injustices our foster children have experienced. However, it is far too easy to forget that these children are just children. They tell me, at the end of the day, they want and think about the same things the other kids in the neighborhood think about, the same things their peers worry about, the same things “normal” kids dream for. And while it is true that our foster kids do indeed have additional complicating factors and concerns–supervised visitation with a biological parent, separation from siblings, life away from the home they knew–they often want to be thought of for other things; things that might seem irrelevant and inconsequential to those working with these kids who know the gravity of their whole situation. To illustrate, these kids follow pop culture, they care about what’s “cool,” they have favorite foods, they laugh and joke with friends…and they also happen to be in foster care.  The point, though, is they happen to also be in foster care; they aren’t just about foster care.

Hard and Hopeful Lessons

Foster kids are often untethered in this world, and only love can bring them into belonging
by
Brooke Cone, foster and adoptive parent
October, 20, 2015 -

Over the last six months, I have been doing Emergency Shelter Foster Care for FCNI in my home, during which time about 13 girls, all but two of them teens, have lived with me. I have soothed nightmares, eased the pain of detoxing from drugs, and have listened to traumatic stories of abuse, sex trafficking, abandonment, sibling separation and loss. I have been yelled and cussed at, have deescalated impending fights and have had girls run away.

A Hand Up and Out

How TAY-FAP is Helping Former Foster Youth Beat the Odds
by
Marie Hughes, Education Support Services Manager
August, 17, 2015

Entering into adulthood, for most, is an exciting rite of passage that bears with it opportunities to try out new levels of responsibility, safely explore increased levels of independence and individuate from supportive parents. For former foster youth, the transition into adulthood, or more accurately termed emancipation from care, is generally filled with increased risks, loss of support and financial peril, with very limited prospects for pursuing post-secondary education.

My Journey from Foster Youth to College Graduate

by
Raquel, FCNI’s 2015 Benefit for Kids’ Youth Speaker
July, 27, 2015

This past Sunday, guests at FCNI’s Benefit for Kids event, were given the profound experience of hearing Raquel’s amazing journey from foster youth to college graduate. Raquel’s story is one of amazing strength and resiliency, and we hope you too will be inspired by her words.

Unequal Treatment of Children and Youth

by
Jim Roberts
July, 2, 2015 -

When I joined the California Katie A Therapeutic Foster Care litigation settlement workgroup, the lead attorney quipped, “California is like the Wild-Wild West; 58 counties doing what they d***-well please!” How true. Sadly, how very true.

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