“What Ifs” into Action

Becoming a Foster Parent
Bekah Alexander, FCNI Staff
May, 15, 2018 -

Have you ever found yourself with “what if”?  We often use the saying “It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack” when searching for Resource Parents (formerly called Foster Parents), and there is good reason for that.  Many of you may think we’re on the hunt for loving, kind people who have a hefty dose of patience when we’re recruiting for Resource Parents. Great Resource Parents have virtues in spades, so please don’t get me wrong when I say this, BUT what foster youth really need are adults who can take ACTION.  

Few families are readily set up to provide foster care. Jobs, housing, schedules, children, finances, even pets, impact a family's ability to bring a youth into their home. The people who become resource parents turn that inner nudge of “what if?” to help a child into a step-by-step achievable vision. They rearrange the pieces of their lives to free up physical, relational, and emotional space to be Resource Parents. If you have the inkling to be a Resource Parent, it's time to sketch that plan out on paper and create a timeline. A lot of things may need to happen to go from dreaming about being a Resource Parent to actually having a youth walk through your front door. People get bogged down in the "can'ts" without planning for the "cans."

  • Do you need to wait for a son or daughter to leave for college to free up that extra bedroom?
  • Are you ready to take a different position at work so you have more flexibility with your time?
  • Do you need to pay off some debt?
  • Develop a better support network?
  • Or buy a bigger car before taking on this new challenge?

Whatever perceived obstacle you feel is holding you back from foster parenting, Family Care Network and our Resource Family Development Specialists are dedicated to helping you strategize your action steps for doing so. We only ask that you call us.  We can take time to get to know you and your family, answer all of your questions and help you move forward towards foster care. Together, we really can help you remove your perceived barriers, so you can achieve your goals--our kids are waiting for you!



To talk with our Resource Family Development Specialists, call us at 805-781-3535. We look forward to talking with you!