I truly believe the proverb, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” I have seen this come to fruition time, and time again over the span of my professional life. Another axiom I picked up on my journey is this, “No man is so foolish that he cannot sometimes give another good counsel, and no man so wise that he may not easily falter if he takes no other counsel than his own.
Every day I think that I am one of the luckiest people alive – I get to work with the most amazing, passionate, competent, intelligent and hard-working staff imaginable. These are folks with hearts combined with skill; drive tempered by patience; with hope sustained by tenacity and endurance; and imagination balanced by wisdom. These are the employees of the Family Care Network – The Awesome!
We have all been there, seated in a crowded restaurant flooded with the tumult of voices amalgamated into a decibel level so high it is untenable, making it impossible to have a normal conversation. People are talking, but no one is really listening. It is just noise. This serves as a perfect metaphor for our legislative process – the din of voices and wagging tongues, but no one is really listening! Unless you are one of the favored few who can buy ears to listen, you just become part of the noise!
Over the past 26 years that I have been a part of the Family Care Network’s Circle of Serving as a Resource Parent, I have gotten to know many, many other Resource Parents. Before I learned about the diversity of kids needing foster care I had a picture in my mind of what a foster child looks like and what a foster family looked like. My picture included infants or toddlers needing families composed of young couples with or without their own kids. Back when I started foster parenting in 1990, I was surprised to learn that there were teens in need of homes and that Resource Parents came in all ages, and were both couples or singles. After all these years, I can truly say that there is no standard demographic for a Resource Parent.